BLACKWELL FAMILY Kitty Barry Oct.-Dec. 1889 ALICE STONE BLACKWELLDorchester, Mass Oct. 13, 1889 My dear Kitty: Florence is here, plump and jolly. The girls at the office regard her as the picture of health. She has been to see Dr. Smith, and Dr. Smith says there is a growth of some sort in the uterus; it may be trifling or it may be serious, she cannot tell; but in any case it will have to be removed; and Floy must take ether and be thoroughly examined. And when this thing is removed, Dr. S. does not see why Floy should not become a well woman and have a large family. Florence is already planning out the education of nine prospective little Blackwell-Mayhews; for she says she supposes she may be like a certain woman she knows of, who was married for some years without having any and then had nine in rapid succession. She is to have the thing removed as soon as the most propitious time of the month arrives; and meanwhile she trots about [*but helped mother all the morning instead, so has to work at it this evening. Just what you would have done. The Historical*]the city visiting the Battle of Gettysburg and all the sights, and standing on her feet a good deal and getting tired, which I think cannot be the very best preparation for having an operation performed upon one's inside. This morning she went down to the Methodist church and came home declaring that she had been kissed so much that she was perfectly exhausted; she had been " handed around." Ethel immediately treated her upon the principle of similia similibus curantur. My father has negotiated successfully for the purchase of the main part of that land he wanted. He is to pay between five and six thousand dollars for it, and it will keep him at work for five or six years to develop it, probably. He is pleased and Mamma disgusted. I rather think it is a mistake for him to tie up so large a part of his money in land. It may result in leaving me more if I survive him, but it would be better that he and Mamma should take the comfort of what money they have, as they go along, instead of doing without things they would like to have and possibly, if the speculation turns out well, reaping a pile of money just when they will be departing this life. However, as it is done it is not worth while to grumble about it; and Papa takes a lively interest in land and houses, and anything by which there is a hope of making money. This new tract of land will furnish him with an occupation much more congenial to him than editing a reform paper, for he does not naturally take to reform. Now Mamma and I do. I like to work on the W.J.- can't think of any line of work open to me that I should like so well. And I must try to work things around so that Papa will leave the paper more to Mrs. Adkinson and me. In fact, I think he will have to, now that he has this land on his hands. Did I tell you Zion's Herald asked me to write them an article and offered to pay me $10? I have written it, and received the $10., and felt as rich as Croesus till I had to pay it all out in [*Pageant was repeated last week, & was thought to have gone off well. Yours affectionately, Alice Stone Blackwell*]a lump for my annual membership in the women's club. Today Ethel received a letter from Uncle Sam. Aunt Nettie has gone to Denver to attend the Woman's Congress. Uncle S. writes: "Aunt Ellen has gone to Lawrence to put her house in order. Next week her address for the winter will be 87 Lexington Ave., near her beloved gallery. Mamma reports all well and satisfactory meetings at Denver. Aunt Emily and Nannie, Cornelia, the 2 Orange households and Aunt Eliza all well. Grace came home from a walk with Mrs. Barker yesterday, bearing a great pyramid of color, trophies of 'scarlet October'. Agnes and Grace both painting and drawing in the library. Edie not quite so burdened as last term." We have had here today, for dinner and to spend the afternoon, three So. Carolina ladies, and Ethel's friend, Miss Dodd. The S.C. ladies were Mrs. Christiansen, Mrs. Neblet & Mrs. Turnipseed- the last a quiet old lady, with nothing ridiculous about her but her name. Mrs. Neblet is odd and jolly and very tall; mother comes just up to her shoulder and it is funny to see them together. No special news. I have not heard from you since the letter received on my birthday. Ethel is a good child, she had a composition to write, Dorchester, Mass. Oct. 20, 1889. My dear Kitty: Floy went to the New England Hospital for Women & Children yesterday, & to-morrow Dr. Smith is to operate. Aunt Emily was consulted, & wrote highly approving. She said it would probably cost Floy less to have it done here than to go on to N.Y. & have it done there; and that Dr. Smith's skill was amply adequate. Dr. Smith does not seem to think it will be very serious. She says Floy may not have to stay more than a week in hospital, but she cannot tell at all until she makes a thorough examination & finds what the trouble is [*& that she can only do under ether.] Floy's appetite & sleep & general health are so good that we think it is not likely to be anything very bad. But Floy is very apprehensive about taking ether - afraid it may affect her heart, etc. Dr. Smith, however says they have never had an accident with ether at the hospital yet; & of course it isn't likely that Floy would be the first. [*of Miss Shaw. When people are honest & unselfish & not conceited, it is a treat to be with them. I hope Miss P. will come over often. Too bad that Mr. Estcourt won't come down to breakfast. It is a most*]Elliot + Ethel + I drove her over to the hospital it is only half an hour's drive from our house. The poor child was nervous + a little tearful, + looked at the building with distaste as we drove up to it. "It's very fine, no doubt," she said, "but I wish I didn't have to visit it, all the same." She wanted Elliot to come to see her, + seemed to have some little doubt as to whether he would be let in; but he assured her he would get in somehow, if he had to come down the chimney. He was not reduced to any such straits, though, for the patients are allowed to receive their friends every day from two to four P. M. We left her at the door, + drove home. (Oct.21. Elliot + Ethel + I are now sitting in the waiting room at the hospital, + Floy, we suppose, is being operated on at this moment. We are not to be allowed to see her, but are waiting so as to get the earliest news). Yesterday afternoon (Sunday) we drove over, + got here about three. Floy had been watching out of the window for us for an hour. As soon as we entered her room she burst into tears, + as Elliot gathered her into his arms she whispered that she hated the hospital + could not bear her [*annoying habit. Few things put Mamma out more. Why don't you send Maggie to rap at his door? Or is he so tired that you feel he] nurse, + that is was horrid here. We shut the door, + then with her head leaning up against Elliot her natural fun broke out, + she began to give us, half laughing + half crying, the most comical account of her adventures + of the other patients. She was lonesome + nervous; that was really what was the matter. I think Dr. Smith had tried to do especially well by her, probably because she was Aunt Ey's niece. She had a good sized room all to herself. There were three beds in it, but the other two were unoccupied; so, while she pays at the rate of a three bedded room instead of a single one (i.e. ten dollars a week instead of $50.) she practically has a room to herself. It is on the top floor, with three large windows + a beautiful view. But there were three babies in the neighborhood who cried + kept her awake; + the nurse who turned off the gas in her room had not turned it fully off, + she kept smelling it; + afterwards another nurse came in and sniffed, + then held her candle up to the gas burner, whereupon immediately the gas blazed up; + the nurse intimated that Flo had had a narrow [* needs the rest? I don't know whether it is customary for newspapers to send in advance for long abstracts of an address. I should think it was quite a compliment. There were abstracts of Aunt B's in the*]escape, which naturally made Flo nervous; & later her window came down with a bang; & altogether she had had rather an uncomfortable night. The next day she saw her fellow patients, & disliked their society--says she detests invalids; & one of them had the tactlessness to point out to her a little wooden building near by, where they put the dead bodies; & she could hear the groans of a woman in labor, whose husband & mother, not being allowed to be with her, prowled about trying to look in at the window; & one of the patients told her she had just seen three funerals go by, & F. then kept watch & herself counted four more [in] within about ten minutes. You see Sunday is a favorite day for funerals, & Forest Hills Cemetery is not far from here. Altogether she was feeling dismal; & she had taken a dislike to her nurse, which made things worse. We saw the nurse; she seemed a lively, good-natured young woman, perhaps a trifle pert. But Florence is a sociable creature, & also I think rather a nervous one; & it made her tremulous to sit by herself trying to read novels but chiefly thinking of a coming operation. Elliot [*Women's Penny Paper & the Westminster & Lambeth Gazette, & I wondered if they were the same abstract that you had so laboriously copied out.*]petted & cuddled her, & told her he would bear it for her if he could, &c; & when we came away he looked back at her window as long as he could. -- Well, in the middle of the last sentence Dr. Smith walked into the waiting room & informed us that it was all over; she had made a thorough examination, but had not thought it best to operate at present. The trouble was a small fibroid tumor, which lay embedded in the wall of the uterus. Floy would have to take electrical treatment in order to extrude it. To try to remove it now would be a very dangerous operation; but it would be a very simple one to do so, & not dangerous at all, after it had been subjected to a proper course of treatment; but that would be likely to take several months. Floy was getting over the ether, & would be well enough to be taken home this afternoon. So, much relieved that it was no worse, we went into the city; & after doing some errands there, I came home, & am now waiting for the carriage to arrive with Floy. Dr. Smith says she will need to take treatment twice a week, [*Mamma informed me confidentially yesterday that Elliot was "a much finer fellow than she had supposed." But she always thought well of him.*]but can just as well live at home & do what she chooses, as to stay in hospital. It will be hard for Elliot to take care of himself for several months; but we are all glad that it did not prove to be anything worse. Your letter of Oct. 1 & card of Oct. 8 came during the past week. You certainly did not "make it clear" that if you & Aunt B. crossed, you, with the dogs, would "make straight for M.V." You said not one word of any such intention; & hence the general impression in the family breast was that the dogs would accompany the party to El Mora, Dorchester, &c, & there is no denying that the prospect was regarded with some consternation. It seems a preposterous idea that you should go to the Vineyard in May & spend the whole time of your visit there, acting as dry nurse to a couple of quadrupeds, instead of going around to visit the various households where you would be received with open arms. It is like your self-sacrificing disposition; but to sacrifice one's self to a pair of spoiled dogs is a folly. However, if the dogs are to go to M.V [*This east storm to-day makes her bones achey poor Mamma. Glad the 20 photos arrived safely. In haste, affectionately yours, Alice Stone Blackwell.*] you will have no particular difficulty. The Old Colony R.R. allows dogs - I see them on the trains - & Florence says that a great many hunting dogs are brought over to the island by the summer visitors, so there must be accommodations for them on the boats. Floy and I both think that the Vedder house, which is furnished & commodious, will be the one most likely to suit you & Aunt B. The chief draw back to it is that it is so far from all the Blackwells except Floy; but as Uncle G. has a horse, & you are a prodigious walker, that will not be so serious an objection as it otherwise would. Aunt Nettie has enjoyed her trip to the West very much. She is supposed to be in Salt Lake City to-day, & is expected home in about a week. She wrote to Uncle Sam from Denver that they "seemed to be swept in a whirlpool of meeting, reception & meeting, till 11 at night." She says: "We never had such a demonstration as Denver is giving us. If we were royal visitors no more could be done. This morning a carriage took several of us to the High School, where we made little speeches to splendid-looking pupils of a higher grade. Then later 15 carriages set out in procession to escort us to all the places of interest, including a brief but grand organ performance in the cathedral. To-morrow we spend the entire day in a mountain railroad trip on a special train, with [dignt] dignitaries to explain all matters of interest; cost to the majority of the round trip about half (of the ordinary) fare one way; to me a free gift. The trip to the "Garden of the Gods" on Monday, to return by Wednesday, is less than 1/4 of the usual fare. I shall see a good deal of the Rockies. For the meeting, I never spoke better, & it was so with most of the others. Everyone seems content." This morning I suppose she listened to the preaching of a Mormon elder. No danger of his converting her. A letter received more recently from Uncle S. says that she "refreshes us every day or two with a fresh line of delight." The enclosed from Aunt Ellen explains itself. I think it is not over weight. I wish Aunt B. would arrange to be present at the next Woman's Congress. They always have a good time. Mrs. Barrows is back from California. I lunched at the Christian Register office the other day & saw her. Your description of Miss Pertz (as to her honesty, straightforwardness, & never doing anything cowardly) made me think Dorchester, Mass. Dec. 8, 1889 My dear Kitty: There is no further news from El Mora, so we suppose that all is going well. Agnes, or some one, wrote that they cut a slit five or six inches long in Elliot's throat, & tied up the arteries, & then proceeded to pull & peel till they got the goitre out, as you would shell a pea out of a pod. It was larger than an egg. Poor Aunt Ellen, it seems, lost more by the fire than Uncle Sam's brief & rather cheerful account had enabled us to realize. She writes (Dec. 2) "I suppose you have heard of the terrible loss that has [*would rather be thin than fat, of the two. It is much more convenient, for it leaves you free to skip about. I wish I could have a slice of the Christmas pudding you will concoct. It is sure to be the best in the family. But you will probably put brandy on it, & my white ribbon would blush for me if I partook.*]come upon me. Last Tuesday night my house at Lawrence was burnt to the ground. A little furniture was saved, in a dilapidated condition, for which I have to pay bills incurred by my agent. The accumulations of my life mostly swept away. Books, pictures, papers, letters, keepsakes, music, piano, guitar, all gone, with all linen, personal clothing, bedding etc. I had carefully collected them all & stored them in the large upper room & locked it, so it all went in a mess. I suppose I shall get partial insurance on house, none on furniture. Supposed to be the work of a drunken wretch trying to get coal. I am sick with the discouragement." [*A Merry Christmas & a Happy New Year, to all on that side the sea, from all on this side! Yours affectionately, Alice Stone Blackwell.*] [Pour] Poor Aunt Ellen! It is very hard for her. I wish I could help, but do not see quite what [to] I can do. There is no special news here. Papa & Mamma & Ethel are about as usual. I suppose when this reaches you, you will be in the midst of your preparations for Christmas. I wonder whom you will invite this year, to give them a good time in your little 'haven of rest"! Wish I could drop in, but in the absence of the Flying Carpet of the Arabian Nights, that can hardly be. Papa has been reviewing a great pile of books. One came in the mail last night from France. As Papa does not read French, I took it to review; but it is immoral& extraordinary, & I don't see what possessed anyone to send us such a book for review. "Memoires de Cora Pearl"; did you ever hear of it? It is the autobiography of a woman who was a professional courtesan--the first thing of the kind I ever came across, & I don't like it. The effrontery of the writer is something surprising. How it ever came to be sent to the Woman's Journal is the mystery. Scott's novels are greatly preferable. I will enclose something I clipped last night from a Mississippi paper, edited by a rather pleasant little temperance woman whom I met in Chicago. It made me shriek & shriek with laughter. What there is "airy" to "fairy" about me, except my excessive leanness, it would be hard to say. However, it was kindly meant; but it was funny. I guess it is a case like that of the woman in The Newcomes, whose friends called her a fairy while her enemies called her a skeleton. Well, I Dorchester, Mass. Dec. 15, 1889. My dear Kitty: We have had a scare about Uncle Sam, but he is getting well. Our first knowledge that he was ill came in a letter from Aunt Ellen dated Dec. 9. After saying that she had an insurance of $4000. on the house, & that the agent wanted her to take $3500., but she saw no reason for consenting to any reduction, she continues: "I have just been spending Sunday at El Mora, & am sorry to report Sam as ill in bed with what seems like an internal abscess of the ear, but it is out of sight. It is very painful, & Emily came out & applied leeches behind the ear, fearing the inflammation might involve the bone. The poor fellow is so pale & thin I grudged hislosing blood, but hope it may help relieve the suffering. He had poultices & hot water bottles applied all night, Aunt Nettie nursing him devotedly. Neenie knelt beside him trying to help when the leeches were applied, & the girls stood around eager to do what they could, but he had a poor night, & we are all anxious about him. Elliot too is not doing quite as well as was hoped at first, but they do not seem to apprehend danger. So things are anxious now for Aunt Nettie & her girls" This letter arrived at breakfast, & threw us all into uneasiness, especially poor Ethel. But the same day we got one from Aunt Emily, less alarming. She said: "Sam is at home with a gathering in the ear. I heard he was not well, & went out to see him yesterday. Hope it may not amount to much, but feel some anxiety because he is not in good condition & has such a proclivity to slow inflammations. They do seem to have a nest of troubles just now. Elliot is at the Roosevelt Hospital. I took much pains to find out what I could best do for him. The operation was performed by one of the very best surgeons in N.Y. I was present. It was very well done. He will come out all right, I have no doubt." The reports from El Mora all the week have been improving: Uncle Same himself wrote & said that the "mastoid" was all right, & the rest was yielding to a course of poultices; he hoped to be out in a few days. A card received this morning from Aunt Nettie says: "S.C.B still improving, but it seems to linger more slowlythan we had hoped. Time is an immense item very often, + especially with him. Elliot also doing well. Fortunately this is not a very busy time at the office, + assistants are excellent." Papa had offered to go + take Uncle Sam's place with the Mexican Telegraph Co. while he was ill. The girls report that Elliot is now able to sit up a little, + they are convinced that just as soon as he is able he will go to waiting upon the other patients -- the pursuit in which he spent the night before his operation. Aunt Ellen's fire was pretty destructive. She says: "there was a wonderful sweep [of] of all my possessions. owing to the barn being on fire last year, I took everything of value pretty much out of the barn + locked them in my great upper room, ready for a holocaust. Innumerable things! Half the edition of both your Aunt E's books. A box of letters of hers from early days to the present, with sketch of the events of her life, with dates, that she made at my request, her early photograph, all put away for a future autobiography. My beautiful guitar, the piano, all my drawings + paintings, house linen, curtains, photo graphic albums etc. A clean sweep -- but as you say, life + limb are worth more." There is no special news here. Uncle Bo + Aunt Martha made us a 24 hours' visit from West Brookfield. Uncle Bo is better, but very thin. His illness has changed him more than he had changed in years. Mrs. Lawrence is at Orange. I suppose almost all the French novels I brought home from Paris were consumed in the fire. They were lent to Aunt Ellen. Fortunately, Les Misérables, Consuelo + the Mysteries of Paris were here. I am very busy, + more or less figetted getting up the programme for the annual meeting with Rachel Foster, now Mrs. Avery. She wants to have Susan Anthony arrange everything, + propose to put this + that into her hands, in what seems to me quite an improper way. And she wants that horrid woman Phoebe Couzins invited to speak at the [area] meeting, which goes against the grain with me dreadfully. However, I needn't bother you with all that. Affectionately yours, Alice Stone Blackwell. Dorchester, Mass. Dec. 22, 1889 My dear Kitty: I enclose a batch of family letters. In Uncle G's, you must take his rather dismal picture of the family health with a good deal of allowance. Both Uncle Sam + Elliot were improving at last accounts. they hoped that Elliot would be at El Mora to-day, though at last accounts he still had to wear a tube in his throat. The Mexican Telegraph Co. has behaved very amiably to Uncle Sam, sent him a letter expressing the highest appreciation of his services, + telling him he could stay at home three of four weeks longer if necessary, + get perfectly well; which of course is gratifying to all of them. One of the young men [*No special news. Some newspapers in Chilliothe are maligning our friend Anna Shaw, + mother + I are very mad about it. Affectionately yours, Alice Stone Blackwell.*]from the office came out to see him a few days ago. Grace was in her father's room, + had on an old gown. She heard them bringing the young man up to see Uncle Sam, + she did not know which door they would come in by, + so did not know how to escape, although she did not want to be seen in her old dress. So she shipped into the ward-robe + shut the door. Would you believe it, that young man stayed + talked to Uncle Same an hour + a half, Grace crouching all that time in the wardrobe! I should have thought she would be used up with cramps + smotheration, but apparently she was not, for no sooner did the young man go downstairs than Grace whisked out of her old dress + into another, + went down to the parlor [and] helped Aunt Nettie + Agnes entertain him! Your [lette] letter of Nov. 1 - Dec. 6 came a few days ago, + was very welcome. I guess there was no choice but to have Elliot operated on or let him smother. It wasn't a real goitre, it seems, but a sort of cyst, which was choking him more + more. Cold + damp seemed to affect it especially. Ethel says when he went out to take care of the cows in the cold misty early morning, he used to breathe very hard when he came in. Anyway, they took the very bestadvice before deciding to have it done. And he had already been treating it for a good while - several years, I think - notwithstanding which it grew worse. I am disappointed to hear that you and Aunt B. are not likely to come over. I believe those wretched dogs are at the bottom of it, + I wish they were both translated to Kingdom Come. I came across a New Year's card the other day that represented three dogs sitting on a pier + gazing out upon the water. If it had not been too late, I should have sent it to you, as representing the two brown bores, with a friend, gazing after your departing ship. They had another vivisection at Tech. the other day. When Ethel mentioned it, I abruptly departed + left her, telling her I did not feel as if I wanted to stay in the same room with her. If I had stopped to think, I should have disguised my indignation + pumped her for particulars for Aunt B. Dorchester, Mass. Dec. 29, 1889 My dear Kitty: The enclosed letters give all the family news. We had a quiet Christmas, with a few guests - Miss Ida Joe Brooks of Arkansas, Miss Cora Bennson of Illinois, my old friend Lucy Wheelock of Chauncy Hall, who has developed into a great authority on kindergarten teaching; + Mrs. Adkinson with her little June. Papa presented me (by request) with Mr. Cable's last book, + Mrs. Barrows sent me a delightful big photo of her husband sitting on his white horse Schuyler - looking just as I have seen him so often, riding about the country. Each of Ethel's kin at home sent her a dollar [*is sitting on the opposite side of the table + keeps wanting to read aloud to me choice passages from an article by Labouchere in the Foreign. In haste, affectionately yours, Alice Stone Blackwell.*]bill, with some comical + appropriate label -- probably as satisfactory a present as could have been given her. Papa received a letter from Mrs. Johns of Kansas, enclosing [a] one from Chief Justice Horton of that State, which tickled Papa immensely, more than all his Christmas presents put together, because the Chief Justice intimated, as clearly was consistent with judicial propriety, that if we can get the Legislature to pass a bill giving women full suffrage by statute, the Supreme Court will sustain the law. This has long been a pet scheme of Papa's, + he was hugely delighted. But he has mislaid Judge Horton's letter, + has been turning the house upside down looking for it, but thus far in vain. He declared that he is now convinced of the existence of a personal devil, as he cannot account in any other way for "the diabolical facts of the universe" -- i.e. for the mysterious disappearance of that letter. He has rummaged in every hole + corner, + is in despair. He offers $50 to anybody who will find it. We have one doleful piece of business on hand. Don't mention it to anybody for anything -- but our poor little Mrs. Vogl, who has had charge of our advertising for so many years, has fallen into habits of drinking, + it has gone so far that it seems necessary to tell her, as gently as possible, that she will have to go to an Inebriates' Home somewhere + be cured. I don't believe she will be willing to go; but we have borne with her a long time, knowing that her affection for mother + her interest in the Journal's fortunes kept her up; until now she has made so many scenes in the office + exposed herself before so many people that it seems as if something must be done. It is a painful piece of business. We are sorry for her, + we are disturbed about the Journal's financial outlook, for she has a wonderful gift for getting advertisements -- nobody whom we ever employed as advertising agent could come near her at that -- and it will be a great hole in our income when she gives up. Poor little woman! She is so good + so nice in many ways, it is a most dreadful pity that she should [e] ever have got into such a habit. If this letter is incoherent, lay it to the fact that Papa freely -- she never even hinted that she thought Aunt B. would be likely to make trouble for her by anything she might say about vivisection. [Why de] Mother + I think just as Aunt B. does about the vivisecting; + from the way Aunt Ey talked when Dr. Tut + I had that little shindy, I should fancy that she (Aunt Ey) did not greatly favor vivisection either. No special news from the invalids. I will notify you at once if we hear of any important change. Wasn't it good that Elliot could keep Xmas with the family after all? [*We were disappointed of our expected visit from Aunt Ey; she couldn't get away. Practice, I suppose. yet she says that both her practice + Dr. Cushier's is falling off.*]Office of The Woman's Journal, No. 3 Park Street, Boston, Dec. 30 1889 P.P.S. Your & Aunt B's letters of Dec. 21 came this morning. We all think that Aunt Emily's not answering Aunt B's letter is no sign that she does not want her to come. She is extremely apt to have letters unanswered through pure negligence or absent-mindedness. In all my talk with Aunt Ey about Aunt B's coming over - & I think she talked with me very